“More Solutions To Your Practical Problems”

When solving practical problems:*

  • Anticipate some failures, perhaps one, perhaps several, and do not “must” yourself by thinking these problems must not occur or see yourself as a lesser person if they do occur.
  • Always give yourself a pat on the back for trying, even if your plans did not work out as well as you would have liked.
  • Believe in yourself! Just because a few problems have arisen does not mean that your efforts are going to fail in the end.  They probably won’t.
  • When you are blocked, analyze your self-talk about why you are blocked.  Are you telling yourself that it’s too difficult to go on? Do you think the problem insolvable? That any results you come up with will be poor ones, and you don’t do anything poorly?
  • If you are having negative thoughts, try COACHING!  Tell yourself: “I know I can do this! This type of problem solving is just my thing! “Now that I’m doing well, I’m going to try to do better! Finally: “Even if I don’t succeed, I can learn a good deal by continuing to try!”*
  • Ask yourself:  What if the worst happens and I don’t find  a solution to this problem? Tell yourself, there are other things to be happy about.  Be prepared to accept yourself fully and give yourself unconditional self-acceptance.

“Don’t forget that working on your emotional problems, which often block your work on your practical problems, is itself a form of problem solving.  Both involve using your head.  As long as you eventually improve any disturbed emotions you might have, you will be in fairly good shape.”*

Ellis, Albert , How To Make Yourself Happy! (Atascadero, CA: Impact Publ., 1999)