Identifying Problems That Cause Stress


Every day we face numerous opportunities to experience problematic situations.  Problems are normal and should be expected. What is often useful is taking a good, hard look at your life  to determine which problem is causing you the most stress, and which is causing you the least.  It is often useful to examine your life, […]



Blaming.  We have all done it at some point in our lives. As kids we blame our siblings for any number of things we were supposed to do and didn’t.  We grow up using blame when something goes wrong in our lives which we didn’t see coming.  As adults, particularly in divorce situations, we blame […]

“Everything Doesn’t Happen For A Reason”*


I recently read a blog online (I know, goes without saying) by a man named Tim (no last name) who says he suffers from cerebral palsy and epilepsy.  As we all know, these are two illnesses that keep on giving.  You never get well.  You just have to live with them.  The tenor of his […]

Collaborative Divorce*


I recently participated in a Collaborative Divorce training seminar.  Many of you may have not heard of the concept of “Collaborative Divorce (CD),” but the basic concept of CD is to avoid litigation in the divorce settlement and arrive at a settlement which is agreeable and pain-free for all involved.  With Collaborative Divorce you usually […]

Forgiving Yourself


Yes, it’s true that in the beginning throes of divorce it is highly likely that you will place most of the blame on the opposite spouse.  This is a protective position, one that may be necessary for you to survive the divorce process with your ego intact.  It is the anger you experience at this […]

Forgiving Others

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We have often heard that forgiving someone for their past acts which have harmed us is a prescription for better mental health.  We have heard that forgiveness is cleansing, that it helps drive away anger and hatred toward our ex-spouse or the one who has harmed us either physically, emotionally or both. We have heard what […]

Insomnia and Distraction

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Those of us who have experienced the highs and lows of divorce know that  we sometimes get into a state of rumination when we cannot shut the pain and loneliness out of our brains.  This can lead to long nights of insomnia and long days of inertia.  If you experience too many nights of insomnia […]

Divorce, Grief and Depression – How to Survive


There are two different types of depression, situational depression and clinical depression.  Clinical depression is usually the result of a mood disorder that can only be resolved by taking anti-depressants. Situational depression is the result of an anxiety or stress laden event (such as divorce) which occasionally occurs in everyone’s life. but is usually solved […]

Rekindle the Human Spirit


In everyone’s life at some time our inner fire goes out.  It is then burst into flame by an encounter with another human being.  We should all be thankful for those people who rekindle the human spirit. Albert Schweitzer

Important Health Considerations for Working Through Grief


The American Hospice Association has a wonderful section on helping yourself work through grief. These are important considerations for anyone experiencing a loss. Here are some of the healthy tips… BASIC HEALTH CONCERNS – Grief is exhausting and it is important to continue your daily health routines. Try to eat regular, nourishing meals. If it […]